Hey women! Want to stop getting raped? Then stop fucking drinking.
While you are at it, you may want to stop dressing like a slut as well. And make sure you are never anywhere alone. You probably also want to plan to be home before dark. Parties are right out. I’d probably suggest that you cut dates with out chaperons out of the picture.
Hell, how about you just stay inside all the time. You can go to school online, after all. Then maybe you can find a good job that lets you cyber commute.
Only then can you be truly certain that your tempting female form isn’t driving some poor, animalistic, unable to control his hormones man into the unstoppable fury of female caused rape.
On second thought, that may not be enough. You better make sure to install a security system as well, and make sure you have the best deadbolts that money can buy. Otherwise, I can just hear the man in court now. “But your Honor, she only had a chain lock and one dead bolt. She was practically asking for me to kick in the door and fuck her.”
Let’s see what the Salon thinks about Emily Yoffe’s victim blaming:
“College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” reads the title of a Wednesday piece by Slate’s Emily Yoffe. “It’s closely associated with sexual assault,” the headline continues. “And yet we’re reluctant to tell women to stop doing it.”
And so begins Yoffe’s entreaty that women stop drinking alcohol so that men will stop raping them. Or so that women will not, according to Yoffe, “end up being raped” as a result of their drinking.
There is, of course, a lot to be said about Yoffe’s “this is not rape apologia” rape apologia, but let’s start with this: Our culture is not, and has never been, “reluctant” to tell women to stop doing things. In fact, people build entire careers around it.
And yet this false idea, that women’s behavior is the real reason they are victimized — and that we live in a society that does a poor job of policing such behavior — is regularly used to blame sexual violence on the “problem” of young women today.
Richard Cohen and Concerned Women for America have both cited Miley Cyrus’ recent embrace of tongue-wagging and half-shirts as a reason that teenage football players rape unconscious 16-year-olds. A judge in Montana declared a 14-year-old rape victim “older than her chronological age” and said she was ”as much in control” of the crime committed against her as her 49-year-old rapist. A 14-year-old cheerleader in Missouri is allegedly raped and abandoned outside by her alleged rapist, wearing only a pair of sweatpants and a T-shirt on a freezing morning, and Yoffe points to the girl’s consumption of a “big glass of clear liquid” as the real problem in need of addressing.
This is the very definition of rape culture. And it is so completely tired.
“We’re reluctant to tell women to stop doing it”? In what country? We live in a culture that has never had a single problem telling women to stop doing something. Hell, our culture practically screams “it’s your fault” at rape victims daily. Why don’t we go to the real problem? Why don’t we tell men not to rape?
You can read the Salon piece at your leisure, but I want to point out this final part to underscore the above point.
But what’s not being said or taught, and what Yoffe only mentions in the final paragraph of a piece spent blaming women and girls for drinking themselves into victimhood, is what men and boys can do to stop rape. First and foremost, they can not rape.
Yoffe notes that, if she had a son, she would tell him not to binge drink so that he wouldn’t “find himself accused of raping a drunken classmate” (a chilling framing, really, since it casts suspicion on the credibility of even a hypothetical rape victim’s accusation); this is, perhaps, the piece she should have written.
To tell her young, hypothetical son — and all of the young, not-so-hypothetical sons of others — not to rape women. Clearly, it is advice they need to hear.
Yoffe notes that, if she had a son, she would tell him not to binge drink so that he wouldn’t “find himself accused of raping a drunken classmate”
“find himself accused of raping a drunken classmate”